I read a news article a while ago which I wanted to briefly discuss. It reported on the stress of family life, such as raising children. Even though there are many things a person can learn and do to reduce this stress only one important thing will be discussed in this blog. Every parent or legal guardian who raises a child will face two elements. The first is their own duty and responsibility towards the child under their care. For example, it is their responsibility to provide them with the necessities of life, such as food, clothing and housing. In addition, they must arrange for both their worldly and religious education, such as teaching them the good manners discussed in the Holy Quran and the traditions of the Holy Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him. Chapter 66 At Tahrim, verse 6:
“O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones…”
The second element involves the child’s own life choices. For example, whether they want to study hard to make something of themself or be lazy. These choices can be between two lawful things, such as the example mentioned earlier or between right and wrong. For example, a child may have to choose between a life of crime or a lawful occupation. All children must eventually make these choices and cannot be forced to choose a particular path by someone else, such as a parent. In reality, parents cannot constantly follow their children and somehow force them to make the right choices.
It is important for muslims to understand that they will be questioned and held accountable by Allah, the Exalted, regarding the first element, which is their duty and responsibilities given to them by Allah, the Exalted. But they will not be held accountable for the second element, which are the independent choices their children make. So a muslim should bear this in mind and concentrate fully on fulfilling their duty and not stress about the second element which is out of their control. The same way an intelligent person does not stress about the weather knowing controlling it is out of their hands they should not stress about the second element and instead concentrate on what is in their control and what they will be held accountable for.
PodNews: Stressing Over Children: https://youtu.be/9Vq15ULea_s
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