I had a thought, which I wanted to share. Muslims often misunderstand the concept of letting things go and moving on with one’s life. They incorrectly apply and advise others with this attitude in every situation and case. This attitude is highly encouraged in Islam only under certain circumstances, which the Holy Quran and the traditions of the Holy Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, make clear. This again, indicates the importance of gaining Islamic knowledge, as ignorance misleads people. The situation where the attitude of letting things go and sweeping it under the rug applies, is when the situation is minor, has no long term negative effects and is unlikely to resurface in different shades and forms amongst the people involved. The examples of this scenario in Islamic teachings are virtually countless. For example, Allah, the Exalted, encouraged Abu Bakr Siddique, may Allah be pleased with him, to pardon and overlook the mistake of his relative without changing their relationship, when his relative indirectly took part in the slander of his daughter, Aisha Bint Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with them. Chapter 24 An Nur, verse 22:
“And let not those of virtue among you and wealth swear not to give [aid] to their relatives and the needy and the emigrants for the cause of Allāh, and let them pardon and overlook. Would you not like that Allāh should forgive you? And Allāh is Forgiving and Merciful.”
This event has been discussed in a Hadith found in Jami At Tirmidhi, number 3180.
Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, was encouraged to let it go without changing his relationship with his relative, as his relative was not going to repeat the mistake again, as he was a sincere Companion, may Allah be pleased with him.
Another example, is when the Companions, may Allah be pleased with them, had a small argument on the way back from an expedition. When the Holy Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, was informed about it, he simply told them to let it go. He did not give them a lecture nor organised a counselling session between those who argued in order to solve their dispute. This incident has been discussed in Imam Muhammad As Sallaabee’s, The Noble Life of the Prophet (PBUH), Volume 1, Pages 1314-1315.
Again, the Holy Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, simply told them to let the issue go and sweep it under the rug, as he knew it was a minor issue with no future negative effects and nor would this issue resurface in the future.
On the other hand, there are many examples found within Islamic teachings which make it clear that certain situations must not be simply ignored, overlooked or swept under the rug. Instead, they must be addressed so that the root issue can be solved. Otherwise, these issues will have long term negative effects on the people involved and will continue to resurface within their lives in different forms. For example, Allah, the Exalted, encourages a married couple facing problems to seek the help of others, when the root issue is serious. Chapter 4 An Nisa, verse 35:
“And if you fear dissension between the two, send an arbitrator from his people and an arbitrator from her people. If they both desire reconciliation, Allāh will cause it between them. Indeed, Allāh is ever Knowing and Aware.”
In another place, Allah, the Exalted, comforts the married couple who determined to divorce. Chapter 4 An Nisa, verse 130:
“But if they separate [by divorce], Allāh will enrich each [of them] from His abundance. And ever is Allāh Encompassing and Wise.”
In both verses, Allah, the Exalted, does not command or encourage the married couple to simply ignore, overlook and to sweep under the rug their serious marriage issues. He instead encourages them to face and address the problems, as they are serious, far reaching and will resurface again and again if left unaddressed i.e. circular arguments.
Another common example, which is unfortunately very common amongst Muslims today, is when a wife, who is persistently physically abused by her husband, is told by her relatives and friends to return to him, her abuser, and to instead overlook, pardon and ignore this serious problem, as Allah, the Exalted, supposedly recommends this attitude. The one who gives this advice deserves a slap! Islam never advises to ignore these types of situations.
One must learn what issues to overlook, ignore and to sweep under the rug and when to address them in order to solve their root causes. This is achieved when one studies the teachings of the Holy Quran and the life of the Holy Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him. Failing to do this leads to circular arguments, stress, anxiety and an unhappy life and relationships.
In cases where the issue is minor and has no long term negative effects on the people involved and is unlikely to resurface in the future, one should learn to ignore, overlook and sweep them under the rug, as hashing out these issues leads to pettiness, negativity and a life full of arguments. On the other hand, in cases where the issue is major, is likely to have long term negative effects on the people involved and is likely to resurface, in the form of circular arguments, the issue must be faced, addressed and practical steps must be taken to solve the root issue and cause.
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